Tell me, could you handle a lot of the things that men go through? This song has sparked a lot of woman empowerment unlike it's predecessor "Like a Boy" by Ciara. Maybe because it's Beyonce. I don't know. I'm not to judge what sparks a woman's interest and makes them want to form a militant group to make men understand.
Ah, understanding! Before you seek to be understood, do you truly understand for yourself? As men, we go through so many things that are seemingly impossible. If you're a religious Christian, then you are familiar with the story of Adam & Eve. The punishment for our disobedience is to work and be the bread winner for the family. The chips were stacked against men from the very beginning. Of course, women are child bearers and providers. I can't really synchronize myself with the exact duties and needs of a woman because I am indeed a man. I guess what I'm trying to say is: Put yourself in my shoes before you ask me to try on your pumps.
Women are very burdened creatures. They have so many different changes that go on in their body from a monthly to a certain milestone in their life. Periods to pregnancy, pregnancy to menopause, women make sure that everyone feel whatever pain they may be going through. This is when a man has to brace himself for the impossible. It is so hard to please a woman when she's feeling sub par. At times, it feels like no matter what we say or do makes it any better. Luckily, I have a woman that lets me know that my efforts haven't gone to waste even if I have failed to make it better. Not all men are blessed with what I have; therefore we often feel as if what we're doing will never amount to anything. Even in my relationship I can ask if there is anything I can do to appease her, and she'll give me a dead-end "no." I don't believe women do this on purpose. It's symptomatic to whatever is going on with them. Unfortunately, the first person to feel this wrath is the unsuspecting man. So ladies, imagine keeping up with your own personal affairs and then trying to remind and prepare yourself for her three days to a week. It's pretty strenuous.
A man is looked at as the rock, the support, and everything else in that bracket. I'm not complaining and I wouldn't change a damned thing for the world, but I will tell you that it gets hectic. See, a percentage of women have this horrible habit of letting a man know when he's not living up to his job description. We go through these personal defeats, but yet we're constantly reminded that everyone else notices when we aren't at our best either. Some women even taunt their men and question their manhood. It's a heartbreaking thing. Once again, God has blessed me so I don't have to worry about that. Women, think about it though.
I am aware that there are double standards in life. I totally understand the whole sex thing. Take time to think about the double standards that affect men. It's perfectly acceptable for you to rant, complain, "bitch", whatever you may call it, for as long and hard as you want. If a man would go on that same rant, he's bullying you. It's hard for me to express any type of uncomfortable anger with a situation because it would be viewed worse than it really is. If a woman did the same, it's okay - she's just having a moment. Am I not allowed a moment? Are we, as men, not allowed a moment?
I know men aren't perfect. How many of us really are? Men find perfection in you. I find perfection in my woman. See, the beauty of being a man is being able to make her feel good when she's not feeling as beautiful as she normally does. It's where we find out joy. Seeing the corners of her mouth gently rise to reveal a smile that's as unique as a fingerprint. It's in that moment that every hardship that a man faces is erased. I'd do anything to make her smile. I'm just a man, and I understand.
In closing, notice I've described us as men and not boys. If you were a boy, you'd be childish. You'd disrespect your women. Men don't do that. We take care of what needs to be done without a complaint. Boys aren't ready to step up and take care of someone and give their all to someone. Don't waste your time with boys, seriously. Find yourself a man and make sure you treat him right. Make sure you understand him before you seek to be understood. Simply because a man is trying so hard to understand you just the same. Who knows? One day he will. It's a process. I'm learning for myself. So instead of being a boy...
Ah, understanding! Before you seek to be understood, do you truly understand for yourself? As men, we go through so many things that are seemingly impossible. If you're a religious Christian, then you are familiar with the story of Adam & Eve. The punishment for our disobedience is to work and be the bread winner for the family. The chips were stacked against men from the very beginning. Of course, women are child bearers and providers. I can't really synchronize myself with the exact duties and needs of a woman because I am indeed a man. I guess what I'm trying to say is: Put yourself in my shoes before you ask me to try on your pumps.
Women are very burdened creatures. They have so many different changes that go on in their body from a monthly to a certain milestone in their life. Periods to pregnancy, pregnancy to menopause, women make sure that everyone feel whatever pain they may be going through. This is when a man has to brace himself for the impossible. It is so hard to please a woman when she's feeling sub par. At times, it feels like no matter what we say or do makes it any better. Luckily, I have a woman that lets me know that my efforts haven't gone to waste even if I have failed to make it better. Not all men are blessed with what I have; therefore we often feel as if what we're doing will never amount to anything. Even in my relationship I can ask if there is anything I can do to appease her, and she'll give me a dead-end "no." I don't believe women do this on purpose. It's symptomatic to whatever is going on with them. Unfortunately, the first person to feel this wrath is the unsuspecting man. So ladies, imagine keeping up with your own personal affairs and then trying to remind and prepare yourself for her three days to a week. It's pretty strenuous.
A man is looked at as the rock, the support, and everything else in that bracket. I'm not complaining and I wouldn't change a damned thing for the world, but I will tell you that it gets hectic. See, a percentage of women have this horrible habit of letting a man know when he's not living up to his job description. We go through these personal defeats, but yet we're constantly reminded that everyone else notices when we aren't at our best either. Some women even taunt their men and question their manhood. It's a heartbreaking thing. Once again, God has blessed me so I don't have to worry about that. Women, think about it though.
I am aware that there are double standards in life. I totally understand the whole sex thing. Take time to think about the double standards that affect men. It's perfectly acceptable for you to rant, complain, "bitch", whatever you may call it, for as long and hard as you want. If a man would go on that same rant, he's bullying you. It's hard for me to express any type of uncomfortable anger with a situation because it would be viewed worse than it really is. If a woman did the same, it's okay - she's just having a moment. Am I not allowed a moment? Are we, as men, not allowed a moment?
I know men aren't perfect. How many of us really are? Men find perfection in you. I find perfection in my woman. See, the beauty of being a man is being able to make her feel good when she's not feeling as beautiful as she normally does. It's where we find out joy. Seeing the corners of her mouth gently rise to reveal a smile that's as unique as a fingerprint. It's in that moment that every hardship that a man faces is erased. I'd do anything to make her smile. I'm just a man, and I understand.
In closing, notice I've described us as men and not boys. If you were a boy, you'd be childish. You'd disrespect your women. Men don't do that. We take care of what needs to be done without a complaint. Boys aren't ready to step up and take care of someone and give their all to someone. Don't waste your time with boys, seriously. Find yourself a man and make sure you treat him right. Make sure you understand him before you seek to be understood. Simply because a man is trying so hard to understand you just the same. Who knows? One day he will. It's a process. I'm learning for myself. So instead of being a boy...
...try being a man.
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Women can't do anything without men.
... and I know I'm going to get hate from that statement, but if you think about it, it's really true.
We can barely do a lot of things without women too.
in all essence we we need each other. women need men, men need women.
and in reality, without women, we wouldn't have much of a population.
I don't like the song, anyways. It's booty. I think women think they could make a better man, and men think they could deal with being a woman without all the complaining we do. Instead of trying to be the other, we gotta learn to accept how we're just made different. It's not about being a better boy, it's about finding a man that's better than the obvious boy you're with. BAM! Whew, hate on that. =]
i was actually going to do a song like this.
-inhales
i understand how every woman wants to feel empowered, like they matter, etc. thats perfectly fine- do that.
but when it gets to the degree that you're on a "fuck a nigga, all i need is me" stint, thats where you cross the line.
much like i don't like the "fuck bitches, get money" stint. how stupid does that sound? honestly, i'd rather a woman by my side through thick & thin over a overused dollar bill.
we should all get over ourselves.
-exhales
we should all get over ourselves.
^^^What Ace said.
Who wants to live in the "If I" or "If you" world anyway. You are what you are and I am what I am so why waste time on wishing we were something else instead of just working it out? Its silly.
Sidebar: How cute is Pharrell in your banner?
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